on my sister and maybe for my mother too.
I'll do the work By Proxy for them...
but also on behalf of others. Surrogate or Proxy Healing.
The answer is both yes and no.
It's a little more complicated than at first blush.
And my apologies for droning on in advance!
You can always pray for someone. Always.
In my Universe no permission is required for this. It will either help or it won't.
It'll either be accepted by the person [or animal] or it won't.
Very simple.
Let's say we want to do more than pray for someone. We want to use a Rudy-tool and
do the work ourselves keeping them in mind--by proxy working on them.
Permission is required for this. It is not optional. Why?
Permission to "send healing" or "do EnergyWork" is required from the person mostly for
ONE BIG REASON that lots of folks gloss over in their genuine, openhearted desire to help & be of service. Here's the reason why we ask the person's direct verbal permission to "do work on their behalf": We secretly [or not so secretly!] want them to change!
Preferably right before our eyes...already! We're actually not so interested in them
actually healing...but in changing to fit our agenda of what that should look like.
And we're SO concerned or fed up or angry or fearful or desperate or convinced or...that we're willing to put in the time & effort to do the work for them. Sometimes we put in hours, days or weeks of work for someone we love. And we end up disappointed & furious when they don't seem to change. We can sometimes get blindingly righteous about this!
Especially when we love them!
Let me ask you a question?
No matter how much you love me and think I'm the best thing since sliced bread,
can you ever breathe for me? Or run my liver functions? Or walk for me?
Or be less cranky for me? Or XYZ for me?
If you're honest, you'll realize the answer is no.
It's always no. In all possible ways no.
Your agenda blurs your good judgement.
It blurs our judgement most when we love intensely.
I can hear it already: "yeah, but you don't know my husband!" or "yeah, but this is my daughter!". I've actually heard them ALL. And despite the terrible circumstances that sometimes arise, the answer is still no. You can't XZY for me...and you can't do it for your husband, daughter, mother, father, cousin or lover.
Sorry. But, believe it or not, that's actually great news! Really.
It begins to free you from the very tight straightjacket of a punishing illusion.
When we believe that that person needs to change in any way [stop drinking, grow up,
pay their bills, get some medical help, stop eating cake, walk more, love us better,
stop shooting heroin, etc.] we're in the dangerous & slippery area of CONTROL.
By the way, CONTROL is NOT healing. It's one of the fastest ways to prevent it.
If you'd like that stated even more bluntly, CONTROL IS TRYING TO PLAY GOD.
It's a no-win proposition for you that guarantees suffering [yours!]
On whose authority should they stop shooting up, start walking, eat less cake or otherwise change their behavior? Our authority? Think this through very clearly. Do you REALLY
want authority over someone else? [Like you could ever actually have it!]
What makes YOU the authority?
Here are the powerful spoiler alerts I've been pointing to:
1--We can't make even our loved ones do anything they are not interested in--ever.
2--That means never--no matter how much we love them.
3--Personal participation in their own healing is 100% required for healing to happen.
4--No personal participation = no healing.
5--You can't even "make them" want to participate. Ever.
6--When you're lost in the straightjacket of "wanting to control another" ask yourself
who is experiencing the suffering? [Hint: it's you...not them.]
7--When you want to "change" another it's actually YOU who needs to do the work!
8--That work is letting go of the death grip of "wanting to control" you're demonstrating.
9--You are not the first, nor will you be the last person with a big heart who suffers because
you want to do the work for someone else. You never can. You can only do your own.
10--Same as in #1 [and it may take 1,000,000 times of hearing it until it really sinks into
us thick-headed humans!]: We can't make even our loved ones do anything they are
not interested in--ever.
Here's the much-shorter & simpler list for animals:
The owner of the animal and/or its caretaker[s] are perfect proxies to do the work
on the animal[s] behalf.
Why "yes" to animals and "no" your son or husband or mother?
Look at your animals and then compare them to the folks
you want to change...the answer is quite self-evident.
Your animals have YOU as their guardian.
Your husband, son & mother have never needed you as their guardian...
no matter how much you believe that may be true. It never was.
Do as much of my work as you can for your animals & yourself. It's also great bonding time!
My suggestion as a starting place is always the Pure Energy Page which is
always up for FREE at www.rudyhunter.com for your endless use.
While you're there be sure to read all the amazing testimonies that
the Pure Energy Page energetic tool it has produced.
Here's the link directly to it:
http://www.rudyhunter.com/pure-energy.html
And when you're there and feel the need to "fix" or "change" anyone else...that's a sure
human sign it's time for you to lean into the Pure Energy and work on yourself.
That really is the truest, shortest way out of suffering.
Much, much, much love,
Rudy
P.S. I am ALWAYS asked the coma/incapacity question when I teach about this topic.
So here's the answer so you don't have to e-mail me about it.
I won't be answering those questions individually.
Instead, I'll answer them all right here and now.
If someone you're "working on" can't give their direct personal verbal permission
[due to coma, infirmity, etc.] you go to get the direct personal verbal permission from
their guardian[s] or caretaker[s]. Like it or not, that's the answer.
You deciding on their behalf [even via "Your or Their Higher Self"] is very
dangerous KARMIC ROULETTE with a capital K. Don't do it.
Ask and obey and your Karmic Slate stays clean & pure.
Much love,
Rudy